When everything feels like the movies, yeah you bleed just to know you are alive.

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A close friend when her ex boyfriend resurfaced in her life began wondering if he was actually the one. This was a person who would have to try really hard to bring her to smile, but could still reduce her to tears in a single phone call. Her overwhelming response to him, ten years back and today made her wonder. He did stir up emotion in her the way few other people could. Even if it was an emotion that made her truly uncomfortable, gave her sleepless nights (not in a good way), and made her unhappy. She began considering that since he could affect her in the way he could maybe they were destined to be together. I reasoned with her that she couldn't be further from the truth. Relationships, specially the most defining ones, are meant to be effortless and happy. But then how could we explain the overwhelming response.

Pain, in the absence of anything else, is a truly powerful emotion. It makes you feel more alive than an ordinary average day. And it continues to make you feel at the center of the stage. Which brings to mind our constant need for drama. Emotional encounters, prolonged arguments, discussions on non existent issues - which get long, loud and dramatic.

While both pain and drama have their rightful space, their space should, in my mind, be limited to the role they play in being able to contrast the more happier emotions-everyday happiness in the little things. And when it is a matter of choice, especially if it a life defining decision and if you could debate on both sides of that argument, I say, let it go.